If your ex wants you back, it will be easy to tell from these signs. Pay attention! Breakups are a time to be annoyed, sulk, and wonder what could have gone wrong. Honestly, breakups suck.
They make us feel sad, hopeless, and disappointed about the time we’ve wasted. But as awful as they are, breakups hold a secret that not everyone seems to know: they’re not permanent.
Some of us know this. And because we still hope, we analyze text messages, pore over emails, and ask ourselves over and over again, “Will my ex come back?”
Now, there are a variety of ways to deal with this question: you can drive yourself crazy with wonder, post messages on social media, and turn to fortune tellers to help decipher your ex’s state of mind. What does he want, and how is he feeling right now?
On the other hand, you can stay calm and rational. You can look for signs that you can still get him back. So if you are hoping that there is a chance for the two of you to have a future, look for these 5 signs that your ex will eventually come back.
5 Obvious Signs Your Ex Wants You Back:
1. He contacts you for irrelevant reasons.
People who break up and want to make it last don’t contact their ex. They do the opposite: they avoid them at all costs. Some may even go as far as changing their phone number or email address.
When your ex contacts you, it’s likely because he’s trying to mend the lines of communication between you. This is especially true if the reasons he’s trying to contact you don’t seem particularly compelling. For example, he wants to know your apricot pie recipe, he calls to find out if he left a bag of slippers at your place, and he wants to know the name of the wine you bought in Budapest three years ago.
2. He constantly asks people about you.
Unless the end of the relationship was a slam dunk and the breakup was too violent, most people want to know that their ex is going to be okay. Asking about you once or twice is natural, but if it happens often, it’s a hint that he still has feelings for you.
So, if your ex is going out of his way to find out how you are—from your friends, relatives, or colleagues—then it means that he may miss you. He is trying to figure out if there is a chance for him to get you back.
3. Your ex finds ways to meet you.
Exes will run into each other eventually, especially if they live in the same area. But if you find that your ex runs into you a ridiculous amount of times… You see him at the grocery store, at your yoga class, at the library; it’s funny to see him here.” This can only be translated as “I’m here because I knew you’d be here.”
4. Your ex tries to behave the same way he did when he first met you.
Most relationships have a honeymoon phase; it’s like a replay of the beginning of a romantic relationship and falling in love. It’s the phase where you can’t keep your hands off each other; you want to laugh together, kiss, and listen to each other endlessly.
This is the phase before people stop being polite and start getting real. If you find that your ex has returned to this phase, he is becoming more romantic; he is looking for an excuse to touch you. He acts the same way as when you first met—he most likely wants a second chance.
5. He strives to change himself for the better.
There is a reason why your relationship ended. It probably wasn’t all your fault or his fault. But your ex can only fix the part that was his. If he starts working on himself, fixing the flaws or traits he had that contributed to the destruction of your relationship, there is probably a good reason.
Change is hard, and after a breakup, people rarely do it for themselves. They usually do it for someone else. If the first 3-4 points match, then it is likely that he wants to change for you.
