“Is He Playing With You?” 6 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship
Whenever you start dating someone new, it’s always nice to give that person a chance to prove themselves first. You want to believe that he has the best intentions for you. Unfortunately, not all guys are genuine. Many of them have their plans for you and are simply wasting their time using you for personal gain.
As a guy, I want to share some of the most common signs that he is being honest with you about not wanting a serious relationship. He may have even told you this in passing, but you did not take it seriously. Pay attention to his behavior and whether he does what is described in this article.
6 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship
1. He seems mysterious
Have you ever met a guy who is intentionally secretive or mysterious to keep you interested? This is one of the oldest tricks in the book that men use to attract women. These guys don’t want you to be able to figure them out. They think that mystery will keep you coming back. It has worked in the past; otherwise, they wouldn’t keep doing it. This trick is designed to give them all the power in the relationship so they can play games and dictate the terms of the relationship.
2. He is fickle
The key to finding a good one is to find someone interested in communicating with you. A guy who plays with you will demonstrate his fickleness and independence. One day he writes to you non-stop and pays attention to you, and the next day he is completely silent, and this “silence” of his can last for several days.
If this happens to you, it’s obvious that the man is not focused on you or what you want from the relationship. He’s simply not interested. He’s with you when it’s convenient for him or when he’s in the mood.
3. You are not a part of his life.
Do you know his friends? Do you know where he works? Have you visited him at work? Has he shared his hobbies and interests with you? If the answer is no, then you are not a part of his life.
He’s probably holding you back from these things on purpose. He wants to be the one pulling the strings instead of being real with you. His boundaries are still there for you.
4. He doesn’t compromise.
Even at the beginning of a relationship, there should be some compromise. Even if it’s just about the places you spend time or the movies you watch.
If a guy can’t even compromise on this, he’s probably just not serious about you. This means he’s only focused on his own needs and doesn’t care about making you happy. This is selfish, and it’s obvious he doesn’t have serious feelings for you.
5. He only gives you compliments.
Yes, compliments are nice, but a guy who is playing you knows this and will use it to his advantage. He will shower you with compliments because he knows that is what you want to hear. His goal is to flatter you, to make you feel good and relaxed, and to lower your guard. This is how these guys convince you that they are nice while hiding their true intentions.
6. His questions are superficial.
Aside from compliments, a guy who is playing with you will only be interested in superficial things. He will talk about your clothes or how you look. He will not ask you about your feelings or share personal details.
The player doesn’t care about getting to know you on a deeper level, so he has no intention of communicating with you in a truly sincere way.
Besides not asking you personal questions, he won’t answer yours, at least not honestly. Keep in mind that these guys are very good at avoiding topics they don’t like or answering questions with questions.
