Even if you are really happy with your loved one, it sometimes sneaks up on you insidiously from behind: routine. It comes automatically with the everyday life that a couple has to go through together. Love can quickly suffer as a result and become a routine that is no longer appreciated. We’ll give you a few helpful tips on how you can freshen up your relationship and bring new momentum to your time together.
Long-term relationships are wonderful, but they also require a lot of work. In contrast to a new love, where the butterflies are still flying in your stomach and even a trip to the supermarket together seems to be the ultimate in romance, couples who have been together for a few years have it a little harder. As soon as the rose-tinted glasses are taken off and the deep infatuation has developed into an adult love with a great deal of trust, it takes effort from both partners to keep the relationship exciting. But don’t worry: What sounds like stress is quite simple.
Refresh your relationship? Keep your distance!
That sounds paradoxical, doesn’t it? But that’s exactly where the big secret to freshening up a relationship lies: you shouldn’t be stuck together all the time, but consciously reduce the time you spend together. Instead of seeing each other every day, half the time or even less is enough. What does that achieve? For example, new topics of conversation about what you experienced in the time without the other person, because that’s often lacking and you just keep quiet about it in the long run. And after a while of abstinence, you’re even more happy to see your loved one again. So, enjoy time for yourself more often and strengthen your relationship in the process!
Small gestures keep love alive.
It is said, “Small gestures keep friendships alive.”. But the same applies to relationships. You don’t have to spend a lot of money right away. It’s enough to leave a little note on the kitchen table in the morning saying “I love you”. Or, really kinky, it could also say something like, “Tonight I’m going to spoil you properly; you decide how…”. Otherwise, women are always happy to receive flowers or just a lovely compliment that comes from the heart. Men, write it down! You can, of course, surprise him too. Just think about what he likes to do or eat and give him a little gift.
Do something unusual together.
In a relationship, it is important to create shared memories—and they can sometimes be extraordinary. Go bungee jumping together, go to an amusement park and let your inner child out, or meet up for blacklight mini golf. Or how about a holiday together where you try out unusual sports or try out different national dishes? Whatever comes to mind that you have never done before—do it! Such experiences ensure that you laugh together, grow even closer together, and can later reminisce with a smile.
Be spontaneous and break routines.
Have sex here and now, if the situation allows it. Have a picnic in the park after work instead of falling asleep together on the couch while watching a series marathon . Plan a spontaneous weekend trip and just see something new. Spontaneity is the best antidote to routine and boredom. So break out every now and then and do something nice together.
