When men end a relationship, it often comes as a complete surprise to us women. Unlike women, men don’t seek out conversation when something doesn’t suit them. Instead, they withdraw and make the difficult decision all by themselves. Here you can find out what the most common reasons men end a relationship are and how we women can best react to men’s silence.
Unfortunately, many women go through this every day: they believe that their husbands have abandoned them for no apparent reason. The fact that women are often hit suddenly when their partner breaks up with them is more because men are wired very differently than women and deal with crises differently. Nevertheless, we women can usually sense the warning signals from men. The silence of men does not mean anything good. In this case, however, it is important to use the right strategy to overcome the crisis.
Women seek conversation, and men flee.
Statistically speaking, women talk more than men. However, we are generally unaware of the drastic effects this can have in crises. As soon as a relationship hits rock bottom, men often withdraw and before a woman knows it, they’ve broken up. We women are faced with this difficult decision so suddenly because we are not familiar with these men’s rules. After all, we women react completely differently when something in a relationship doesn’t suit us. We seek dialogue. Whether we cry, scream, or flatter—we try no matter what—to clarify the situation and get it under control. Men, on the other hand, bottle up all of their problems until they can’t take it anymore and pack their bags. While we still believe in “peace, joy, and happiness” at this point, in reality, he has already said goodbye to us long before that.
The most common reasons why men leave
There are many reasons why men leave a relationship—even after many years together. Despite this, men are often not aware of these reasons themselves. Instead, we women hear classics like “We’ve grown apart” or “We’re just not suited to each other.” The real reasons for a breakup are usually different; here are the most common:
# Everyday
Everyday life can also be a real desire and relationship killer. If both partners suddenly stop paying enough attention to each other and are only concerned with their jobs, housework, and children, it is almost inevitable that feelings and togetherness will be neglected. And that is often a reason for men to want to start over.
# Freedom
Of course, men also need their freedom. He will be happy if he can do something nice with his loved one or just relax on the couch—but that doesn’t always have to be the case. He also wants to be able to have a good time with his friends; women are out of place there, and nagging from them is just not an option!
“Just” because there are reasons for a relationship ending, that doesn’t mean that women will find out about them. Men’s silence sometimes goes so far that they even split up in silence. The disappointment of their partner could be too great, and they are often not able to deal with it. To supposedly avoid such hurt, men prefer to remain silent. Most men are not aware that they are leaving their ex-partners with a huge number of tormenting questions and causing them even greater pain. Silence has worked for them up to this point. And so they believe that men’s silence should work for women too, but it doesn’t. The women affected usually find it much harder to come to terms with such a silent separation. The unspoken words and lack of answers can sometimes be a heavy burden for them in the long term.
