Here are 7 reasons to suspect a guy of having an affair with his ex! A man tells
Jealousy comes up to some degree in any relationship, and this is especially true if your boyfriend has an ex who is still in his life. While it’s not unusual for people to be friends with their exes, and that alone isn’t enough to be suspicious, there are situations where things get a little fishy. Here are a few reasons why you might raise an eyebrow at your boyfriend hooking up with his ex. You have every right to!
1. Your boyfriend talks helplessly about his ex
Any time you and your boyfriend discuss his ex, you should note who started the conversation. There aren’t many reasons why a guy would suddenly start talking about his ex. If he does, and does so regularly, it’s a sign that she’s on his mind and he can’t get over her. It’s a potential sign that he has unresolved feelings for her.
2. He defends her regularly.
It’s okay for your boyfriend to be friendly with his ex, but he shouldn’t defend or justify everything she does, especially if you think she did something wrong. It’s reasonable to be suspicious when he tries to rationalize everything she does. If you make it clear that you have a different perspective and he’s still on her side, that could be a problem.
3. You don’t know why they broke up.
At some point, in any serious relationship, couples tend to talk about why their last relationship ended. If he’s still in contact with his ex, you should know exactly why they broke up. This is a relevant detail if the two people remained friends after the fact. If he’s trying to hide why they’re no longer together, there may be something fishy about it.
4. He is too sentimental towards her.
In theory, sentimentality isn’t the worst thing for a guy; let’s face it. But it can also be a red flag if he’s too attached to the memories he has with his last partner. In other words, he shouldn’t have a treasure trove of photos and memorabilia from that relationship.
If any of these are present, then in this case, it is not unreasonable to suspect the guy. This is an obvious sign that he has not forgotten about her and has not moved on. If he is still in contact with her, it is not surprising that you may think that he will return to her in an instant.
5. They spend time together
If you and your boyfriend are hanging out with your ex, that’s usually fine. It may not be ideal for you, but if they’re still friends, you shouldn’t interfere or be suspicious. However, you may start to get suspicious if they insist on spending time alone without you.
It seems like they are trying to distance themselves from you or are keeping secrets. If there is no explanation for why they need to spend time alone, there are a few questions that need to be answered.
6. They talk too often.
It’s one thing to stay friends with your ex, but it’s another thing to talk to her every day or spend time with her, on your weekends. I mean, that’s what you’d expect from a couple who’s dating and not broken up on right?
We all know that there should be some boundaries, especially when one of those people is in a new relationship. If they are dating or chatting 24/7, then they are still together, and that is wrong. You may well suspect that the guy has hidden feelings for his ex.
7. He compares you to his ex
Guys hate it when women compare them to their exes, so it’s not hard to guess that girls have a similar attitude towards this behavior. If your boyfriend does this to you, there is reason to worry.
Most likely, this comparison is meant to flatter her. But it seems disrespectful to you. Why on earth should you be compared to anyone? And it hints at his unresolved feelings for her, which is grounds for a serious conversation. You should not tolerate this.
