4 Green Flags You’re Dealing With An Emotionally Normal Man, According To Psychology

4 Green Flags You’re Dealing With An Emotionally Normal Man, According To Psychology

If you look online, the picture you’ll get of modern men is not happy. Men are lonelier than ever before, and male deaths of despair are higher than they’ve ever been. Unfortunately, that’s not the end of men’s problems, especially not when it comes to women.

In the past, being emotionally unwell usually would be overlooked. These days? Not so much. It’s too much of a risk, and women are no longer willing to be rehab centers for men.

Women generally do not want to date a man who’s emotionally unhealthy. This is primarily because dating when you’re emotionally messed up decreases your ability to be a decent partner. There is also a higher risk of abuse that comes with it.

An emotionally healthy man is a good partner, friend, and business colleague. He’s also the type of guy that women truly dream about. But, how can you tell if you are that dude? Let’s talk about what emotionally healthy men never do and what makes it a sign of someone’s emotional health.

1. He never stops taking care of himself

An emotionally healthy man makes a point of hitting the gym (or at least walking). He also works on his career, talks to his friends, brushes his teeth, and cleans his home.

He’ll do it all on his own. He might even be in a support group or have a therapist.

An emotionally unwell person will often stop caring for themselves, especially when it comes to their appearance, their home, or their mental well-being. Or worse, they may try to foist the responsibility of their wellness onto people around them.

2. He doesn’t spend hours hate-scrolling, hurting others, or making hateful remarks online

Reddit is a cesspit of emotionally unwell and potentially dangerous men. Do you know how I can tell? They go out of their way to post hateful content towards women online or try to disparage women from talking about legitimate concerns they have.

A man whose hate goes unchecked to the point that he can’t hold it in is not an emotionally healthy man. A man who actively feeds the hate in his heart is not healthy in any capacity. A man who is threatened by women having equal rights to them is not emotionally well.

If you’re emotionally healthy, inviting others to “sit at the table” with you will not make you feel angry or threatened. An emotionally well man believes in equal rights and consent simply because he knows that he’s not losing anything by having more equals.

They don’t resent women who don’t show interest in them. They understand that rejection doesn’t always mean something personal. Sometimes it’s just not the right time or something doesn’t click.

Emotionally healthy people have empathy. If you are too hateful, you lack empathy for others. This is one of the main reasons why women want an emotionally healthy man.

Emotionally healthy men in relationships demonstrate strong emotional intelligence, cultivate supportive connections, and prioritize their partner’s well-being. Research suggests that having a supportive and emotionally healthy partner can improve both partners’ mental health and well-being.

3. He refuses to chase after someone who rejects him

Have you ever seen a person who doesn’t respect those who treat them well but will do anything for people who reject them? This is not the behavior of an emotionally healthy person.

While this can be chalked up to trauma bonds and more, the truth is that it’s something that tends to stop the healthier you get. (Go ahead, ask me how I know this. I was this person!)

When you’re emotionally healthy, you may still feel hurt and rejected. However, you tend to take a hint and not try hard to impress people who don’t care about you. You start going, “Okay, these guys are jerks. I’m out.”

4. He won’t lash out in anger or overreact

Part of what makes emotionally healthy men so attractive is the fact that women don’t feel like they’re ticking time bombs. When you’re emotionally unhealthy, you’re prone to overreacting.

Those guys who flip out when a girl doesn’t answer in a timely manner, stalk women who haven’t replied, or freak out when someone cuts them off in traffic are not emotionally well. This is the kind of unhealthy behavior that truly scares people and repels them permanently.

If this sounds like you, it’s best to confront that rage you feel. This is a struggle that only you can face — and while it’s not easy, it will help you.

Emotionally healthy men, as partners, are better at managing anger, communicating needs, and resolving conflicts constructively, avoiding lashing out. A 2022 study concluded that they demonstrate emotional regulation, empathy, and a willingness to engage in healthy relationship dynamics.