15He Never Shares Personal Or Deep Information About Himself
When someone’s interested in you, it’s because they feel you’re on the same page and you’re someone they want to invite into their world.
If you’re always getting emotional doors slammed in your face by the shy guy, then he’s keeping you out for a reason and it’s not due to his personality or social anxiety.
14He Never Asks You Questions
Even if he’s generally a shy or quiet guy, if he can talk about himself, he shouldn’t have problems turning the spotlight onto you sometimes.
This back-and-forth conversation is an important thing to look out for when sussing out a guy’s interest in you.
13His Friends Tell You He’s Interested, But Nothing Comes Of It
He’s so shy, his friends have to tell you he’s interested in asking you out. But wait, if he’s so interested, why has he left that information to collect dust? Why hasn’t he actually asked you out?
It’s fine to give the shy guy some time to pluck up the courage to show you he’s interested, but if it doesn’t happen for a long time, there’s probably another reason for it than his shyness.
Maybe he’s not as interested as his friends claim or his feelings have changed. If a guy likes you, nothing will stand in the way of him making you his!
12He Looks Bored During Conversations
A shy guy might appear a bit awkward or uncomfortable when you first start chatting to him, and that’s normal. But after a while, he’ll open up. However, if he seems bored around you, such as by breathing heavily or staring into space, that’s something completely different and a sure sign he’s not interested in having a conversation or going on a date with you. Just because a guy’s shy or quiet, it doesn’t mean that he’ll put you off in such a way, so don’t confuse the two things as this can cause you to waste your time and energy on a guy who really doesn’t deserve it.
11Even Via Text, Conversations Feel Strained
These types of communication can definitely help make someone more comfortable if they’re painfully shy or anxious from social situations.
So if the shy guy you’re talking to can’t speak to you in person or via text, that’s a possible sign he’s just not interested. If he liked you, he’d try to find the most comfortable way to talk to you.
10He’s Kind, But To Everyone
One of the things you might like most about your shy guy is that he’s always so kind. He smiles when you approach him and he opens the door for you when you both step into the classroom or office. That doesn’t mean that he’s necessarily interested, though. Again, it’s important to take notice of how he behaves around other people. If he’s generally warm and considerate to those he meets, from his friends to the old lady he helps across the road, then that’s just his nature, it’s not a sign of romantic interest.
9He’s Always Around, But Never Really Makes An Effort With You
8People Say He’s Shy, But You Know He’s Had Other Relationships
Even though he might be a super shy guy, if you know he’s had previous relationships, that means he is capable of making the first move or at least be flirty enough to get a girl interested. He can’t be that shy if he’s gone on dates in the past. And shy or not, if he’s dragging his feet to ask you out, it seems the real problem is that he’s not choosing to make a move.
7He Struggles To Make Eye Contact, Every Time
It’s not easy to make eye contact, and this can be even more uncomfortable for someone who’s shy. It might be hard for him to look into your eyes because it’s so personal. But even if this is the case, he’ll show you other positive body language. He’ll smile or at least glance into your eyes during conversation. If it feels like you’re talking to a brick wall or he doesn’t even look your way once the entire time, then maybe something else is going on. He might be rude or just not interested in giving you the time of day.
6He Never Looks Your Way
The thing is, when someone likes you, they’ll want to look at you.
If you’re often around your crush but he never looks your way, even if you had to rock bright purple hair or a cartoon suit, then that’s a sure sign he doesn’t have eyes for you.
The truth is, if he really likes you, he’ll show you that he does. He won’t call you “buddy” or pat your back like you’re one of the guys.
He’ll take an interest in you and show you that even though he’s shy, he really wants to spend time with you and he’ll be jealous when you date someone else. Most importantly, as Thought Catalog points out, he won’t give you mixed messages.
4He Doesn’t Respond When You Make A Move
Shy guys love it when a woman they’re interested in makes the first move. It takes the pressure off them having to do it!
So, if you’ve made the first move on a guy and he doesn’t reciprocate your efforts, there’s your answer right there — the problem isn’t that he’s shy or socially awkward, but that he’s not interested in you in that way.
For example, as Thought Catalog points out, a difference between a shy guy and one who’s simply not interested is that the shy guy might not start a conversation with you but he’ll be enthusiastic when you do.
3He’s Too Busy To Chat With You, Even When You Approach Him One-On-One
2He Doesn’t Make You Feel Comfortable
1His Gaze Wanders When You Try To Engage With Him
It’s like he’s trying to show you with his body language that he’d rather be talking to other people or doing something else with his time.
Don’t waste your time on him. The guy’s not interested.
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