Relationship Advice: The Uncomfortable Truth About Cheating (So Don’t Comfort Yourself)
The Uncomfortable Truth About Cheating (So Don’t Get Yourself Comforted)Here’s what you need to understand: Yes, we’re all humans. Yes, we all make mistakes. But whether you’re the one who cheated or the one who was cheated on, the fact remains and the truth speaks for itself: The truth is that if a person cheated, they don’t love their partner.
The Ugly Truth About Cheating: Cheating is not a mistake a person makes when they truly love someone. Let me repeat: You cannot cheat on someone you love. IT’S IMPOSSIBLE.
If you cheated on your partner and still believe that you love him/her, you are deceiving yourself. I will prove it with my example. I often cheat on my boyfriends. I am not proud of it, and I do not brag, but I can analyze it.
I cheated because I never wanted a real relationship. Or rather, I wanted all the perks of a relationship, but I didn’t want the commitment. I always valued my independence and ability to do what I wanted, but I still wanted someone to have dinner with, cuddle with, and go on vacation with.
Ideally, a guy would wait for me at home while I went clubbing. Ideally, he would understand my need to be free. But that’s not the reality. In reality, I was lying. I was only “in a relationship” when my boyfriend was around. I was a bad girlfriend. I admit it.
And I often confessed my inclinations to guys. But everyone thought that they could change me. But this did not happen. And I asked myself what was wrong with me and why I did not even feel guilty.
Eventually, I realized that I didn’t have enough feelings for the men I dated. I didn’t care enough about our relationships to be afraid to risk them. I didn’t respect my boyfriends enough.
That’s why I’m sure that if you love and respect someone enough, you can’t cheat on them. You just can’t. It would kill you.
Let’s talk about respect.
It all comes down to this. When I really fell in love, not like I always do, I felt this—a deep respect for my boyfriend.
He treats me well, he motivates me, and he’s there when I need him. He’s my best friend. And now I shudder at the thought of another guy touching me.
The thought of hurting someone I respect so much breaks my heart. I can’t. I couldn’t.
So if you cheat on your partner, you don’t respect him or her enough not to cheat. You might as well just walk away. Your infidelity is proof that you’re not right for each other.
Yes, you love your partner, but not enough and not truly.
I loved my boyfriends too, each in their own way. But I didn’t love them enough to stay faithful.
When you truly love, other men and women do not exist for you.
Here’s what you have to understand: if you can’t sacrifice another person’s touch, if you can’t resist physical temptation for the honor of your relationship, then you don’t value it enough. Again, you can’t cheat on someone you love. It’s impossible.
