How a mistress changes your life. A woman who decides to play the role of a mistress will never know true love. The word “mistress” evokes a lot of bright feelings and emotions. Every woman associates this word with betrayal and treason. But, no matter how paradoxical it may sound, it comes from the word “love.”. I know that women who have faced betrayal by their husbands will be unhappy with this definition. But I still decided to write an article about it.
How a Mistress Changes Your Life
The theme of “Mistress” is very complex and difficult. It is difficult to talk about it, difficult to reason about it. Our life is real; it is what we see every day. Our beliefs, actions, and desires determine our destiny. My work is connected with the knowledge of many different lives and destinies.
All the women who come to me are different—in their fates, social status, and problems that brought them to me. I know how hard many families went through the breakup, in which husbands had mistresses. The hardest and most painful thing is for women over 50. After all, at this age, women have practically no goals in life—children have grown up and are starting their own families, there are not too many friends left, and only the husband remains, and he… And he unfortunately brought pain and suffering.
I try to look at the situation from different angles. That’s why I understand that mistresses have unenviable life expectations—the eternal expectation of meeting a loved one, his calls and messages, the expectation of life changes, hope for an unexpected reunion with a man, and life together.
A life filled with fear of a simple phone call to a loved one, of being together in a public place where you can meet his friends. And is it worth talking about loneliness on weekends and holidays when there are so many happy, full-fledged couples and families with children around…
The life of a mistress is filled with pain and bitterness that is felt day after day.
There will be no talk about men in this article; today the topic is related only to women, namely, to mistresses. Unfortunately, today in our country there are many beautiful, smart women, but many fewer men. And this inequality complicates the life of a woman—many cannot be happy and feel like full-fledged women.
Our culture has carried the image of a courageous, strong, determined woman through many generations. This causes the upbringing of infantile, weak boys who, from childhood, get used to relying on the will and determination of their mother first, and then any confident woman.
It turns out that the number of confident and strong men that every woman dreams of is becoming fewer and fewer from generation to generation. According to statistics, there are cities where a man can choose a companion from among 15 women.
What is a woman’s happiness?
A woman’s happiness is love. She must love and be loved. And this means that she needs a relationship. Very often you can hear from a lonely and proud woman that she is fine alone and that she does not need a lover. But this is not true. The essence of a woman, like a flower, blossoms only in love.
Many people believe that love is the beginning of a relationship and that it fades over time.
Many people believe that love is a short-lived feeling. Some even claim to have experienced this in practice—we met and fell in love, but after a few months the feeling faded. This is a misconception.
Relationships begin with falling in love.
Any relationship begins with a slight crush. But it does not have time to develop into love because lovers interrupt its development at a certain stage. They think that love is like a warm summer: it warms up, turns green, blooms, becomes bright and hot, and then gradually begins to wane.
How to Know True Love
Modern psychologists compare the relationship between a man and a woman with the development of a tree over a year:
Falling in love is the spring blossom. It is a wonderful, light, beautiful time. We enjoy its light aroma and admire the colors and fragile petals.
Falling in love lasts for about two or three years of a relationship. Lovers get to know each other, enjoy each other’s company, and bask in mutual tenderness and affection. After that, the flowers wither and fall.
Transition period.
After flowering, ovaries appear in place of the inflorescences. Have you ever tasted an ovary? Nasty, unpleasant taste—you want to spit it out right away. What comparison can there be with the lovely, delicate flowers…
Partners begin to expect constant care and attention from each other and are surprised that they do not receive it from each other. Lovers expect that the chosen one will begin to live not by his desires and feelings but will devote himself to his other half.
They begin to recognize each other’s shortcomings, which they did not notice when they were in love. And, naturally, they experience disappointment. This is the same bitter taste of the ovary…
Love…
This period begins after the ovaries ripen. After all, to get sweet, juicy fruits, you just need to wait. That’s what many couples lack—patience. So they don’t wait for the fruits to ripen; they pick them and throw them away.
True love matures over time and cannot be felt just like that.
That is why patience is so important; it will make lovers wiser and reveal to them true love that lives for many years.
It is worth noting that patience can be different. You can live every day with pain in your soul and encourage yourself with the words, “Be patient, just a little more patience.” There is very little left. But this will not make any sense; it is exhausting and suckers out all the juices.
Or you can treat everything with patience, observe, draw conclusions, admit your mistakes, and look for solutions to any problems—in general, patiently learn to love and be loved. This is the only way to become a wise woman who delves into relationships, gets to know them, herself in them, and her beloved.
By patiently living through the period of maturation, one can feel true, meaningful, mature love.
How are the concepts of “love” and “mistress” related?
Love is a priceless gift that few receive. This feeling, like the most precious prize, is received only by the most patient—those who learn to love and be loved together with their partner, who can and want to know themselves and their chosen one, who can understand life’s lessons and not repeat their own or others’ mistakes.
Only by enduring, waiting, learning, gaining experience, and getting to know yourself and your partner can you receive such a great gift—love.
A woman who decides to play the role of a mistress will never know true love.
It is impossible to call meetings for a few hours, several times a week, a full-fledged relationship. Such a relationship will not be able to develop, and such feelings will not be able to grow—it is simply impossible because one of the partners already has another family.
Partners will never be able to fully open up and trust each other, and a mistress will never be able to open up as a woman. After all, there will always be a man’s wife between them, and possibly children. And if there is no trust, how can love mature? How can it be “grown”?
A woman who has decided to become a mistress must understand that the relationship will not be full-fledged: rare meetings, gifts, short courtship—this is all she can count on. This is not enough for a woman’s heart to open up and fill with love. A woman won’t be able to live out her natural destiny—to love and maintain a sensual world of relationships.
Besides the real world, there is an energetic world. And a man feeds on female energy. This is an inexorable law of the energetic world.
A man cannot live without a woman; she is the source of his energy. If he starts looking for another, it means that his wife does not give him the necessary energy, and subconsciously he is looking for his source.
If there is a source of energy next to a man, he will be successful and self-confident.
But if this source is a mistress and not a wife, the energy will not return to her; she will give it away in vain. And he will return it to his family, wife, and children.
Energy belongs to high matters. Giving energy, each person should receive the same amount in return, restoring their reserves.
The mistress will not be able to participate in the exchange of energy; she will only give it away. And she will not be able to replenish it on her own in sufficient quantities, so she will feel empty.
There needs to be an exchange of energy in a relationship.
If a woman gives her beloved man, he achieves business success and becomes a strong and confident man. But the energy returns to her in the form of care, protection, and provision from the man. If there is no return, the woman becomes unhappy and devastated; she is overcome by depression and bouts of bad mood; and she often gets sick.
There are such relationships with a mistress, as a result of which the first family breaks up and a second one is created. But in such cases, people usually prefer not to think about what mistakes were made in the first relationship and do not learn lessons from them.
As a rule, such marriages are doomed to an unhappy end, and the person simply changes partners during his life. If a man learns from the mistakes of his first marriage, perhaps the second time he will be able to experience true love.
It takes a man 1 year to understand if he wants to be with a woman.
A man makes his choice within 1-1.5 years of a relationship. If this does not happen, he will never be able to decide, and the mistress will remain the mistress.
A wise woman who is in the position of a mistress, even when making any decisions, suggests that a man carefully consider his further actions and not rush into making a choice.
