Great love comes only after a great mistake. “Maybe our mistakes make our destiny,” said Carrie Bradshaw. Maybe we need to be broken first to finally be whole.
The worst kind of love is when we build up high hopes and invest a lot of energy, only to find out that it’s all useless. The heart breaks into a million pieces, and we wonder why it didn’t work out.
Yes, we often make mistakes in love.
Great love comes only after a great mistake. We choose people based on the lessons our souls need to learn. We cannot change easily; we cannot open our brains and fix what is needed there. This can only happen when there are only us and our regrets left.
Maybe it’s not so much a mistake as a need to better understand who you are, how you love, and what you need from love. Although there is such love that we want to return. But this does not change the fact that it once broke our hearts…
The thing is, we need a big mistake to bring us closer to the love of our lives. We need to break down to figure out how we want to put ourselves back together.
And often this biggest mistake is a relationship that we should never have started, or at least should have left much earlier. But we didn’t, and not because that love was our destiny. But because without it, we would never have understood what true love is.
We always have a choice to stay in a relationship, and it is a constant battle of characters and ideals. And no matter how much we hope that this time everything will end differently, it does not work out that way.
Because it’s not meant to be.
Our mistake must end, usually very bitterly, usually catastrophically hard. Its purpose is to break us to the last piece and challenge our ideas about love. We must ask ourselves what went wrong and what love really is for us. And this does not happen overnight, but until we realize the truth and stop hiding from it.
It is that state where we know we can give our love to someone, but we can also walk away with our heads held high and confident that we will find someone more worthy.
Because the love of our lives is waiting for us, and when we meet her, we will no longer ask ourselves why we had to endure so much love suffering.
This love will come when we finally believe that we deserve what we want. It will be completely different. After all, we, having experienced a painful breakup, will already treat it differently.
We will seek peace and tranquility, not passion and fire. We will not be picky about appearances but will pay attention to the energy that a person brings into our lives. Slowly, we will begin to understand that it does not matter who this person is, but what kind of person he or she awakens in us.
It should make us better. It should inspire us. And then we will understand that the biggest mistake in our life has become a guiding star to the greatest love of our life. Great love comes only after a big mistake.
