We so often see failed relationships as personal failures and our exes as mistakes… If you truly loved someone, if you shuddered at their touch, if you felt warm when you said their name, if you felt alive when they were around if just one look from them made your heart shine, then your breakup was not a loss.
If you gave yourself to him in the name of love, if you believed in the strength of your connection, if you walked towards your dreams together, if your lives were intertwined for some time, then your broken heart is worth it.
If you realized who you were while you were with that person, if you saw yourself and your relationship blossom and overcome all of life’s obstacles, if you trusted, if you cared, if you woke up with a smile on your face because you knew you had that important person in your life, then your connection was still beautiful, no matter how it ended. When you love, when you walk in faith and give your heart to another person, that is the most valuable and powerful thing you can do.
And it doesn’t matter what happens next; it doesn’t matter if you end up alone; it doesn’t matter if that chemistry between you fades; it doesn’t matter if your heart breaks and you can barely stand on your own two feet, because it was worth it.
Because you loved.
We so often see failed relationships as personal failures or successes. When we look at the person we parted ways with and think we made a mistake.
We think we wasted so much time with the wrong people. We hate ourselves; we hate our exes for the time we will never get back.
But our time, our energy, our passion, and our affection are never wasted if we truly love.
Love can never be in vain. And there are no “wrong” people, only life lessons. Of course, we can end up in relationships with people who end up treating us badly, who cheat or lie to us, and who leave us when we trust them.
But we can’t look at these failed relationships as worthless. We can’t think that we’ve wasted so much time because every relationship teaches us something, every love shows us who we are, and every pain helps us become stronger.
Because love is always worth it, no matter how it ends.
So please remember that love is not aimless and meaningless. You are not a failure because of a failed relationship or marriage. There is no loss when you give your all to someone. You only gain wisdom, lessons, understanding, forgiveness, and personal growth.
And if you cared about someone, if their toothbrush was next to yours, if their hand was so familiar and warm in yours, and if your heartbeat was in rhythm with theirs, then you have not lost anything.
