The first date has a very special magic. Two strangers meet to see if there is chemistry between them and if something more could develop. Because the situation is so special, there are very specific dating rules that have developed over time. Some of them are considered old-fashioned today, but let’s be honest: we still find some behavior nice. You can find out exactly which here.
There’s so much that is planned for the first date: what outfit should we wear, where should we meet, and what should we avoid talking about? And what exactly does he expect from us? Questions upon questions! Once all of these have been clarified, all that’s left is to wait for the date itself. We’re naturally curious to see how he behaves. Especially because some date rules are so old-fashioned or outdated that we can’t tell anymore. However, we have a few examples where we think they’re still a nice gesture, even if they shouldn’t be viewed as so stiff.
Dating rules that women secretly like
Of course, we are now so emancipated that we could simply throw these rules out the window. That’s not a bad thing. Nevertheless, there are a few classic situations in which we still appreciate it when he behaves in a certain way.
#1: He makes the first move
Yes, yes, yes. We don’t want to say that women have to be the little mice waiting for him to conquer them. Nevertheless, we think it’s a charming and brave move when he comes up to us in a bar after extensive eye contact.
#2 He knows how to be polite
They are only small gestures, but they can mean so much that we are happy when we think about them. Holding the door, moving the chair, waiting with the food until ours is there. And apart from that, it is of course also charming when he listens for once instead of just talking about himself the whole time.
#3 He pays for the first drink or meal
This is a dating rule that many people today consider to be outdated. After all, we women stand on our own two feet, earn our own money, and are fine with a split bill. But that’s exactly why it’s somehow nice when he insists on inviting us anyway. He knows (hopefully) that he doesn’t have to.
#4 He doesn’t kiss us right away
Kissing and even sex on the first date is completely fine. But even if there is obvious interest on both sides, it is nice if he is a little more reserved and doesn’t pounce on you straight away or even want to invite you to his home. That makes it seem as if the date is going to end in a one-night stand. If he isn’t interested in anything more, we also appreciate honesty.
#5 He contacts you the next day
You’ve probably heard of this strange rule: “I’ll only get in touch three days after a date.” Do you make someone wait to increase the tension and make yourself seem less easy? Lame. Unfortunately, the relatively long radio silence makes it seem as if the date was a complete failure and there’s no further interest in contact. That’s why we like it when we get feedback from him the very next day about how he liked the evening. Otherwise, we’re happy to do it ourselves.
