Making your girl a priority in your life does not mean giving anything up in return. It doesn’t mean making your entire world revolve around her and catering to her every need 24/7. It does not mean that you have to forget about your friends and the other people you care about, nor does it mean having her as your only focus in life.
Making your girl a priority means respecting her and her time.
It means showing up for her when you promise and not bailing on her. It means remembering the important dates that she loves to commemorate with you. Dates such as the anniversary of your first kiss, your first date, obviously Valentine’s Day, and other important events that make her feel appreciated and loved. It means answering her texts as soon as you’re able, rather than waiting all day to reply with one single word. Answering back takes literally 10 seconds, so instead of blowing her off, just text her you love her and that you’ll get back to her as soon as you’re off from work. She will appreciate that more than you think.
Making your girl a priority means showing her you’re in it for the long haul.
This means actually calling her from time to time instead of just texting back and forth. By calling, you are giving her reassurance that you care enough to hear her voice, and she will love that so much. It means agreeing to be a plus one at her cousin’s wedding whom you don’t even know that well, but it’s not even important. What matters is that it’s important to her, and that’s all you care about. By being by her side through important events in her life, you are showing her that you want to be a part of that life. What better way is there to show your commitment than to willingly spend time with her entire family and actually enjoy it? She will be over the moon, and you will be happy for making her feel so loved and appreciated.
Making your girl a priority means paying attention to her wants and needs.
What this means is knowing exactly what coffee to get her from Starbucks on your way over, without having to call her and check. This means knowing that roses are her favorite flowers and that tulips give her a strong allergic reaction. This means knowing the names of her close family members and her closest friends and knowing exactly who she’d call first in an emergency. It means knowing which song she hasn’t been able to get out of her head for the past week, and what songs make her turn off the radio. It means genuinely caring when she talks about her work and that annoying coworker that she can’t stand, instead of just nodding along, not having a clue who she’s talking about. It means being present in her life and listening to hear and understand, as opposed to listening and just waiting for her to stop talking.
Making your girl a priority means actively involving her in your world.
This means inviting her to the movies with you and your buddies because you want her to meet them and actually get to know them on a deeper level. You want your girl and your best buds to be as friendly as possible, as they are all huge parts of your life. It also means knowing exactly what her favorite food is, so you surprise her from time to time after work and show up with a full bag of her favorite take-out in front of her door. She will love you for it! It means not assuming she wouldn’t be interested in something, so you don’t even bother inviting her. No, on the contrary, invite her to do the things you love and that matter to you. Even if she’s not too interested in it, she loves you, so she’ll go and be supportive of you!
That’s how it works. Make her a part of her life, and she will do the same for you. And soon, you will find yourself enjoying those cooking classes that she’s making you attend with her, and she’ll start getting really into the World Of Warcraft and become an avid gamer! That’s what you do for people you love. You include them in things you love which will make your love for one another grow, and you will connect on a much deeper level than you ever thought possible.