Every couple in the world has their issues. Don’t let social media posts fool you.
A photo is a moment in time, but an actual relationship is a much longer commitment.
So don’t be too hard on yourself. Everybody out there is just trying to make it work to the best of their ability.
Some succeed, and some end up going the more difficult route.
But at the end of the day, we’re all in the same boat, and when it comes to love, we all struggle.
Nobody is immune to self-deprecation and an occasional loss of faith in the idea of love.
Even that one couple that seems to have it all, I assure you, they don’t.
Nobody will air their dirty laundry in public, and what you see is not always what reality is.
Keep that in mind the next time you feel everybody’s got their shit figured out but you.
If you’re struggling with finding love and you’re being too harsh on yourself, please don’t. If you’re not kind to yourself, how can you expect somebody else to be?
Erase those toxic thoughts that are plaguing your head right now and try to find a more positive spin to your situation, because it DOES get better.
Your current situation is not your final destination!
Decide right now to change your mindset, and get these 4 toxic beliefs out of your head, because they are the only thing keeping you from finding love!
1. You are not worthy of love
Guess what? Yeah, you are!
You’re only human, so cut yourself some slack. We can all be a bit selfish, impatient, and rash.
We all make mistakes and bad decisions that fuck up our life.
But we also know that nobody is perfect, and neither are you. But that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to find your true love! You really do!
Once you realize that everybody just wings it most of the time and nobody really knows what the fuck they’re doing, you’re going to see that you’re doing so much better than you actually think you are.
2. You suck at being a girlfriend
Okay, so you may have had a few failed relationships… but, who hasn’t?
Name one person you know that has it all figured out and hasn’t once fucked up their relationship. I’ll wait.
You can’t, can you?
That’s because being perfect is a myth and has nothing to do with actual reality! We are all deeply flawed.
We all tend to screw up every now and again, but that doesn’t mean we suck at relationships.
All it means is that we’re all learning as we go, and the same goes for you.
If you don’t feel like you’re good at relationships, you probably haven’t met a guy that’s right for you yet.
With the right guy, you’re not going to feel like a failure, trust me.
Don’t let a bad relationship and an ill-fit boyfriend convince you otherwise.
3. If it’s not simple and easy, it’s not worth the bother
And that’s where you’d be wrong. Nothing good and worthy in this life will ever come easy. When has it ever?
Everything that’s going to make a dent in your life for the better is going to require some hardships and challenging days.
But just because it takes a lot of effort to get to that place, doesn’t mean it’s not worth it.
It means that once you get past all the difficult stuff, you’re going to enjoy it that much more profoundly.
Fight for things that matter to you. Never give up at the first sign of trouble because if you do, you’re never going to get to your happy place.
Don’t be afraid of a challenge. Embrace it, work on it, and never give up if you can’t go a day without thinking about it.
4. There’s nobody out there for you
If I had a nickel every time I thought that, it’d be swimming in dough.
Everybody goes through a rough patch where it seems like you’ve tried everything and there’s simply nobody out there for you.
You’re not even sure if it’s worth putting yourself out there anymore.
But it is! There are so many people in this world that it’s simply ridiculous thinking you’ll never find your “one.”
It’s going to take time and effort, and yeah, at times, you’ll lose hope… but that’s exactly when you should try even harder.
It can’t be worse, right? So what have you got to lose if you believe in yourself for just a little while longer?
You’d be surprised how far a little faith in yourself can take you.
Chances are, when you stop the active pursuit of finding your match, you’re going to have the best chances of doing so.
Let your guard down, live your best life, and don’t give up on yourself yet.
Go out, dance the night away, and stay positive.
1One day, he’s going to just pop up in front of you, ask you for a dance, and you won’t know what hit you.
Life really does work that way. So let go of the toxic beliefs you’ve convinced yourself of, and give yourself the benefit of the doubt.