9 Rules for a Happy Relationship.
Let’s imagine that a man and a woman are separated by twenty steps. So, you should take your ten steps and stop. If he didn’t meet you there, don’t take the eleventh—then you’ll have to take the twelfth, thirteenth, and so on for the rest of your life. Everyone should take their 10 steps.
9 Rules for a Happy Relationship
1. We always attract exactly this kind of person into our lives.
Which we are essentially ourselves. If you are not satisfied with your surroundings, look into your soul. If you think that you are lucky with people, it is only because you yourself are like that. Therefore, if you want to attract a worthy person into your life, become such a person.
2. What we give is what we receive.
Treat your partner the way you would like him/her to treat you.
3. We all really need love .
Love means acceptance, sincerity, tenderness, care, willingness to give and be responsible, reliability, selflessness, and generosity. And the more we show these qualities, the more we get in return. Such manifestations as fear, jealousy, dependence, manipulation, control, claims, and reproaches destroy relationships and have nothing to do with love.
4. All words have power .
Words can heal, but they can also kill. Be careful what you say. Labels, insults, and reproaches create wounds in the soul that are difficult to heal. They have an irreversible effect. Because in the soul of every person lives a child who is afraid of being rejected. Be afraid to underestimate your ability to hurt him. Use the power of words only for warm words, compliments, approval, and support.
5. Trust is a vital element .
Without it, one becomes suspicious, anxious, and full of fears, and the other feels emotionally trapped as if he is not allowed to breathe freely. Jealousy is the fear of loneliness, low self-esteem, and self-loathing. Trust is an integral element of true love.
6. Be sincere .
Love is never still; it is like a plant that either grows and blooms or withers and dies. It all depends on what we do with it. Sincere communication is like water; without it, the plant cannot survive.
Talk to each other about your desires and your attitude and feelings. Let your partner know that you love and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say, “I love you.” Don’t be afraid to overpraise your partner. Sincere praise, like the sun for a plant, will breathe new life into your relationship.
7. To love means to give a part of yourself without payment or reservations.
If you want to receive love, you only need to give it. And the more you give, the more you receive. Love is like a boomerang; it always comes back. Maybe not always from the person you gave it to, but it will still come back to you. And it will come back a hundredfold. It is important to remember that our supply of love is unlimited. We do not lose it when we give it. And the only way to lose the love inside us is not to give it to others.
One of the reasons why people rarely experience love is that they wait for someone else to love them first. But this is like a musician who says, “I’ll play music only when people start dancing.” Or waiting for a fire to give you warmth without putting any wood in it.
True love is unconditional; it asks for nothing in return. The secret formula for a happy, lifelong relationship is to always focus not on what you can take but on what you can give.
8. Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love.
Strengthening relationships. To touch a person means to touch his soul. Maybe that is why when we are offended by someone, we say, “Don’t touch me!” Hug your loved one more often just like that; without a sexual motive, hold hands.
The researchers experimented in a London clinic. The chief surgeon would visit each of his patients the evening before the operation to answer questions and explain the general nature of the operation. And during the experiment, the surgeon would hold each patient’s hand for the few minutes he spent talking to them. These patients recovered three times faster than the others.
When we touch someone with care, both our and their physiology changes—the level of stress hormones decreases, the nervous system relaxes, and the immune system and emotional state improve. There is an opinion that if we do not hug 7-8 people a day, we are doomed to illness.
9. If we love someone, we need to give him freedom.
Free to make his own decisions, free to live the way he wants, not the way we want. Each of us needs personal space. People need to be free in relationships because otherwise they feel trapped.
If you truly love someone, you must respect their wishes and needs. It is not always straightforward to let go of someone you love, but there is no other way. Life wisdom says: “The more freedom we give to another, the closer he is to us.”
