It happened to me all the time. I was so tired of waiting for love to knock on my door. But, that is because I was expecting it to walk into my life. I pressured myself into wanting love so badly that I lost any logic I had and I blindly searched for love.
You shouldn’t wait for love. Love will happen to you when you don’t ask for it. Love will happen to you when you relax and accept the fact that things aren’t going to go your way every time.
That’s exactly how it was for me. Now, I catch myself staring at the love of my life when he’s doing stupid, everyday things. I catch myself staring at him like he’s doing something impossibly beautiful.
That’s how much I love him. I love every normal and ordinary move he makes. I love how he puts butter on his toast in the morning. I love every fiber of his being.
And I got all of that because I stopped waiting for love to happen.
I never imagined myself saying these things about anyone. I wanted to say them but it was too surreal. I hoped I would share the love I had to give with someone but I never knew he will love me back.
My whole life I was aching for love. I thought I was patient and I was always ready to love someone and to be loved. But now I get it that I wasn’t patient at all.
I was tense and agitated because love never came knocking on my door. I wanted it to come so badly, but there was no sight of love whatsoever.
I was in relationships, but my excuses were that the timing is not right, or I had some issues of my own and I didn’t want to unleash my problems on someone else. Or, I was in a relationship, but that wasn’t love.
That wasn’t the feeling of butterflies in your stomach. I didn’t go to bed thinking about him or waking up doing the same. That just wasn’t love.
Our whole lives we are searching for our soulmate. That’s what it all comes down to. We want someone to cuddle with, someone to share our problems with, and someone to come home to at the end of the day.
That leads us to settle for the first person who comes at the right, actually completely wrong time.
Instead of giving our own lives some meaning and devotion to ourselves—working on ourselves, making ourselves better—we ache for something that will come, but not yet. We lose most of our lives wanting something that we shouldn’t have to want yet.
Love will find you when you are ready to take it.
We are single for a reason. We get heartbroken for a reason. That is all part of the journey which builds us into complete, smarter and better people who will one day be ready to love with all of their hearts.
And because we walked on the bumpy roads of our lives, because we were falling and bruising, we become stronger later.
We become stronger and finally ready for the beautiful kingdom of true love.
Keep waiting and be patient. Believe me—it will pay off in the end. Don’t fool yourself that you are becoming desperate because you really have plenty of time. Don’t convince yourself that you’ve met your true love because that person will keep you from meeting the one you were supposed to meet.
When you finally make peace with yourself and just let yourself go with the magic of life, he will come.
I wish someone had told me this. I wish someone had told me I have to be alone to figure out my personal ‘manuals’ and the way I operate. I wish someone had told me that solitude will bring me the biggest happiness I have ever experienced.
I wish I had known I had to love and respect myself first if I wanted someone else to do the same.
For a long time, I thought I was unlovable. I thought that I am never going to find love because I’m broken. I was born with a mistake that can’t be undone. I thought that’s just the way life is. I wanted to change so many times.
I wanted to be loved, so I molded myself into something others wanted.
That never lasted because that was not who I am. And I thought that I was a lost cause. I thought I was never going to have a happy ending. But then I found a man when I least expected it.
Everything was so easy with him. I didn’t have to pretend to be something that I’m not. I was the person who I always was. I was finally myself and someone loved me for that.
I really didn’t see him coming. I thought I was supposed to be alone a few more years because frankly, I was happy alone. I found myself and I was happy with my life and with whom I have become. I didn’t think I was ready to love.
But there he came—barging in at the apparently right time.
He was nothing I expected him to be. He was completely different from what I had imagined. And yours will be, too. He won’t have the features you’ve imagined, but he’ll have that special ‘something’ that will sweep you off your feet.
The right man is worth the wait.
Don’t you ever settle for someone just because you are scared or lonely. He will never love you the way you were made to be loved. He will never make you happy the way you were meant to be happy.
Don’t settle for the mediocre feeling when the right one is waiting for you. The right love is waiting for you to stop waiting for it to happen.