Love Advice: What you should never owe the man you’re dating
When you start dating someone new, of course, you want to make the best impression. More than anything, you want him to like you and think of you as the most beautiful girl in the world.
And in the euphoria of new feelings, you can subconsciously change yourself just to impress a man. You can even cross your personal boundaries and forget about them completely. But if you do not adhere to your principles at the beginning of the relationship, then you will not be able to return them later. Do not betray yourself in an attempt to impress him. Here are 5 things you should never do to a man you are dating:
1. You don’t have to explain to him why you’re not married.
When asked this question, we usually get defensive. It makes us feel judged and reproached. But you are not single because everything is bad. Stop telling yourself that being married is good and being single is not. Whether you are single by choice or by chance, there is nothing wrong with it. And you should not have to justify it.
2. You definitely shouldn’t give him sex before you’re ready.
Just because he wants it or because you’re on your third date doesn’t mean you should. If you feel pressured, don’t agree to it just to please him or to keep him from falling out of love with you. Just because he buys you coffee or dinner doesn’t mean he’s buying you. If he thinks that, he’s not the guy for you.
3. You are not obligated to be faithful to him if he cannot guarantee the same to you.
There are men who say outright that men cannot remain monogamous and that it is forgivable for them. There is a simple rule: do not become devoted to him until he becomes devoted to you. If you are truly important to him, he will want to be faithful only to you.
4. You shouldn’t drink with him.
Some men just want female company to have a drink or to get a woman to do THAT thing. But don’t change your habits or desires just to please him. If he says you’re a spoilsport or a stuck-up person, that’s okay—you don’t have to prove that you can have fun without alcohol.
5. You don’t have to apologize for the real you.
If he judges what you wear, how you look, and what you eat, if he calls your beliefs stupid, think carefully; do you need him? Believe in what is true for you, and do not adjust to anyone.
