5 proven ways to find out about cheating. Maybe it’s time to talk frankly. Most women claim that they feel with their hearts whether their partner is cheating on them. How do you find out about cheating if you are a man or a woman who does not have this talent?
Friends
If you have suspicions, try to talk to your friends and share your concerns. They may not tell you the truth, but their behavior will give you a lot of insight. As a rule, if you are being cheated on, you will be the last person in your circle who does not know about it. Everyone else will look away, remain silent, and talk behind your back, waiting for you to finally figure out that your partner is unfaithful to you.
By the way, the opposite is also possible—when they react so confidently that you feel that all your fears were groundless. The main thing is not to keep all this to yourself. If you are right, it is better to find out about it as soon as possible. If you are wrong, there is no need to waste time on stupid obsessions.
Time
If you feel like you are being cheated on, try to restrain yourself and not run to your partner with your suspicions the moment they arise.
Thus, psychologist Dr. Reinhard M.A. conducted a study and found that if a person is shown a recording of someone saying a phrase and then asked whether they lied to him or not, the subject is more likely to answer correctly if he is given time to think and not insisted on an immediate answer.
Words
Simply put, the more time you give yourself to figure out the situation, the more likely you are to correctly assess whether you are being cheated on or not. If you try to figure it out right away, you are very likely to be wrong.
Psychologist James Pennebaker found that when a person tries to hide the truth from someone, he unconsciously changes the vocabulary he uses. A liar reduces the use of words such as “I,” “my,” “I think,” “I understand,” “but,” “except.”
In this way, the person lying to you is trying to depersonalize his message. It’s as if he has nothing to do with it. He is trying to absolve himself of responsibility for his statement.
Moreover, he tries to make his statements unambiguous, not allowing for another point of view.
Instead of these words, the liar uses more aggressive words, such as “enemies”, “hate”, “malice”. This is again an unconscious attempt to forcefully achieve the liar’s belief. So, if you suspect your partner of infidelity, watch whether the language he uses to communicate with you has changed.
Voice
By the way, even a change in the timbre of the voice can give away an unfaithful partner. It turns out that the cheater’s testosterone level rises very strongly, which affects the voice.
And the person, feeling that he has begun to sound unnatural, tries to correct this, which leads to the fact that he begins to sound even stranger.
This applies not only to men but also to women. Pay attention to the voice in which your loved one speaks to you, especially when it comes to your relationship with him.
Aggression
Everyone knows that cheating is wrong. And no matter how hard you try to justify your behavior, no matter how compelling your arguments are, you still understand very well that you are the one who is wrong. And not just wrong. You are acting viciously.
All these feelings torment the person who cheats. Especially if he does it for the first time; in fact, he usually does not behave like this and always condemns others who acted like this.
Over time, this leads to the fact that it becomes increasingly important for the guilty party to justify their behavior. And the only way to justify it is to blame the partner you are cheating on.
This leads to the fact that the cheater begins to find fault with his partner more and more and becomes more aggressive towards him.
If you feel that your partner is increasingly dissatisfied with you and does not mince words when telling you about it, it is possible that the issue is not in a specific situation but in something more serious, and this is how he tries to accuse you of cheating on you.
Maybe it’s time to talk frankly.
