Perfect men are more like unicorns. The sooner you realize that they don’t exist, the better. I used to dream about a perfect man who was going to respect me, treat me right and love me unconditionally. I used to dream about a man for whom I was going to be the missing piece of the puzzle.
I wanted a man who would not hug me too tight, so that I didn’t suffocate, or too loose so that I didn’t fall to the ground. I had been in search of this perfect grip for years.
I don’t search anymore. I woke up. I’ve realized that I only want someone who makes an effort to show that he cares because trying is what makes you perfect.
I want someone who makes an effort to understand me.
I don’t want you to agree on everything with me but I don’t want you to judge me either. I want to feel understood and free to express myself. I cannot promise you that every day with me will be a day in heaven but I will appreciate you giving your best to understand me.
I want someone who makes an effort to listen to me.
Even if you don’t know what to say, please just listen to me. You don’t have to talk if it makes you uneasy or you’re not sure what to say but I don’t want you to act like you’re not interested in what I have to say.
I want someone who makes an effort to fight for me.
I don’t want you to turn your back on me when someone says something bad about me or something bad happens. I want you to be a man and fight for me. So, pull up your sleeves and show me that you care.
I want someone who makes an effort to make me feel special.
I want a man who will fight hard to make me feel special. It doesn’t have to be anything big. Making tea or a cup of a coffee is a cute gesture to show me that you care.
I want someone who makes an effort never to miss wishing me a goodnight.
No matter how tired, I want a man who will always remember to wish me goodnight at the end of the day. I want to be the first and the last person you’re thinking about when getting up in the morning and going to sleep.
I want someone who makes an effort to show me how proud he is to have me.
I don’t want you to play games with me. From time to time, I want you to show me that you’re proud to be with me and that you respect me.
I want someone who makes an effort to surprise me.
I want someone who will always think of new ways to surprise me. I don’t want to get stuck in a routine or simply get bored. I want you to show that you care about me being entertained because one part of you is afraid that I could easily replace you with someone else.
I want someone who makes an effort to express his feelings.
I know it is hard for you to express your feelings but you can at least make an effort to try. It is hard to know what’s on your mind or how you are feeling if you don’t want to share it with me. I will not judge you or make fun of you. I just want to feel connected.
I want someone who makes an effort to treat me like a lady.
I don’t want you to treat me like any other woman before me. I want to be sure that you know your priorities and that you’re not afraid to treat me like a lady. You don’t need to read tons of articles on How To Treat Her Like A Lady in order to be a pro. Simple things like opening doors for me would be enough to show that you care.
I want someone who makes an effort to make me laugh.
I want someone whose happiness will be a reflection of my own. If I’m feeling down, I don’t want you to ignore me. I want you to make an effort to make me laugh. You don’t need to be a stand-up comedian but simple jokes and pokes from time to time should be sufficient.
I don’t want you to be perfect. I want you to show that you’re making an effort.
And I will not stand for less.