I Hate Waiting…that’s Why I Suck At Modern Dating
Modern dating seems so simple, yet it’s so complicated. The road that leads from dating to an actual relationship is so long and exhausting that it wears you out before you even begin a romance.
Patience is not one of my strong suits…especially when it comes to modern dating. I hate playing games and acting like I don’t care when I actually do.
I hate all the calculations and planning when it comes to texting. Who texted who first? Should I delay my replay? If I send this, will it make me look too needy? Etc.
Thinking and overthinking your every move is frustrating. It kills all the fun in dating.
That’s why I send a reply right away if I feel like it. I text first without giving it a second thought. I ignore when something doesn’t sit right with me.
I am not afraid to admit how I feel even if that makes me look weird. I like to talk things through and know where I stand. Otherwise, I feel like I am wasting my time.
I get accused of moving too fast and being too clingy when I am just being realistic. Shouldn’t you know after a month of dating if you want to enter a relationship or not?
In modern dating, apparently not. It takes several months, or in worse cases years, to determine if you are in an exclusive relationship or not.
It takes riding emotional roller coasters with men who don’t know what they want…who are afraid of relationships and any sort of commitment.
It takes spending your days and nights talking, texting and snapchatting someone, and letting them into your heart just so they could ghost you like you never existed and leave you wondering what happened and where did you go wrong.
Isn’t it better to know where you stand with somebody as soon as possible?
It doesn’t have to be on your first date, but a month of dating, calling, texting and browsing through social media accounts should be more than enough if you ask me.
The longer the courtship or the dating game, the more you get attached to a certain person. You get so involved and so hooked, and if it doesn’t work out, it’s so much harder to get over them.
The more time you had with them, the more memories you created, and you felt like you are actually with them. But deep down, you know you have been strung along into something ‘almost’.
I hate that. I had that, and I don’t want to waste my time on anyone who is stringing me along.
I want to know what I mean to someone, and I want to know it as soon as possible. If we are compatible, if we’ve clicked and want to give ourselves a chance to start a relationship, why not try it right away?
What’s the point in waiting for forever when you know those things right away? You feel them from the start or you don’t feel them at all.
I am impatient; I know. But after I know that I am somebody’s girlfriend, I will slow down my pace without even trying. I will feel safe around that special somebody, and there will be no need to rush.
I won’t picture going down the aisle or having kids so early on. I am not that type. I want to build a relationship. I want to see if we can be happy together. I want to know if we can solve any obstacle that comes our way.
That’s the point at which I want to take things extra slow. I want to enjoy every second of it. If we don’t make it, at least we tried. We were brave enough to give ourselves a chance for love.
We weren’t hiding our feelings, sending mixed signals, playing mind games or making a mess of our lives. We gathered our courage, and we went all in for love.
Bluntness, clarity and knowing that I am walking on the same path with somebody. That’s all I want and all I am not getting in this modern dating world.
I know I suck at modern dating, and I know that’s mostly due to the fact that I am impatient and wear my heart on my sleeve. I know, and I don’t care. I am who I am, and I won’t change.
I hate waiting, but I am going to wait for someone who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid of saying it aloud.
I am going to wait for someone who sucks at modern dating as much as I do.