I Don’t Need A Man To Solve My Problems, I Need A Man Who Won’t Become One
People seem to think that a woman needs a man to make her life easier. They seem to think that we are incapable of doing things on our own.
Social norms teach you that men are the protectors and providers of the families, and women are the caretakers. Well, I’m going to tell you that that is a load of BS!
I know a lot of women who are more manly than the men by their side. I know single moms who are raising their children just as well as two parents would.
And I, for one, am sick of these presumptions that a woman needs a man in her life. She doesn’t need him, but she can have him if she wants.
All of you ladies should believe that you are strong and independent. You can take care of yourselves. You can make a good life for yourselves. You’re more than capable. You don’t need someone else in your life to become what you want.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you need to shut everyone out because you can do things by yourself. Don’t be a relationship-hater. You can be in a relationship and be independent at the same time.
Just never allow yourself to lose that independence and be subordinate to anyone you’re dating just for the sake of the relationship. There are plenty of other men out there; men that won’t make you give up your freedom.
That is not love; that is control.
Love is not about making decisions for someone else. Love is not calling to check if your partner is cheating on you. Love is not doubting everything the other one says.
Love is support and trust. Love is inspiration and motivation.
I let someone fall in love with me, but I’ve set boundaries because I don’t want to lose myself.
I don’t necessarily need a man in my life, but I choose to have one. It’s who I am. I’m always going to choose love, but not at all costs. I’ll love someone because I want to, not because I have to.
I’m perfectly capable of living on my own. I don’t need anyone to show me how to live or tell me what to do. I’m independent, and I want to stay that way.
I’ll never sacrifice myself and stay in a shitty relationship just because I don’t have any other choice. I refuse to be trapped with a man I don’t love just because I need him.
When I fall in love, the man standing beside me won’t have to carry me on his shoulders for the rest of his life. We’re going to be partners and lovers. We’ll create an unbreakable union and a partnership. We will help each other.
Love shouldn’t be about only taking care of the other person. Sure, you’ll be there for each other when it’s needed.
But, love is not about picking up the trash behind someone. No one should be just a giver or a taker in a relationship. You have to be both a giver and taker. When they need you, you have to be there, and when you need them, they have to do the same.
I don’t want to lower my partner’s expectations. I want him to know that I’m going to work as much as him. I want him to know that I’m never going to let him support me just because he is used to me not lifting a finger or making an effort.
If this relationship is destined to work, we have to give our best—both of us.
I don’t need to be saved. I’m not looking for a Prince Charming to wake me up from my deep sleep. I don’t need a knight on a white horse to come and rescue me.
I need an equal partner. I need a friend. I don’t need or want a man to solve my problems nor do I need a man who will become one.
I want a man who will support me—and I’m not speaking about financially. A man who will encourage to keep going when I want to give up. I want a man who will care about my dreams as much as I do. I don’t want someone who’ll bring me down and tell me I can’t do something.
I want someone who is going to be proud of me and of everything I do.
I want a life partner. Someone who will build a happy future with me and not stand in my way.