5 Signs You Are Still Holding On To The Relationship You Need To Let Go Of
Have you ever found yourself at a relationship crossroads? Have you ever been in a situation in which your relationship is going through a rough patch and you are not sure whether you should do your best to save it or if it is time to let go?
Here are 5 signs that it’s time for you to stop holding on to a relationship that is obviously doomed to fail and that it’s time to move on with your life.
1. You cry more than you laugh
A romantic relationship shouldn’t make your life harder. Instead, it should make it more beautiful and enjoyable.
Even though it shouldn’t be the only source of happiness in your life, it should definitely make you feel happier and better about yourself. After all, life is full of stress and your romantic partner should be the person to make it all the more bearable.
The truth is that love needs hard work. And I am not trying to tell you that couples in happy relationships don’t argue and that there is no tension between them because that would be a lie.
But put everything that is going on in your relationship on a scale. Have you caught yourself more times crying over your boyfriend than smiling and laughing about something he’s said or done? If the answer is yes, there is no doubt about one thing—this is not the relationship you need in your life.
2. You hope for a change that isn’t coming
Lately, you keep hoping that things between you and your partner will become better. You hope that he’ll change the way he treats you or that the two of you will finally reach a compromise.
But despite all of your efforts, this isn’t happening. Even when things become better for a short time, before you know it, everything goes back to the way it used to be.
If this is the case with your relationship, it is more than clear that you are waiting for something that won’t come, as much as you want it. Remember that you can’t change the essence of someone’s personality, no matter how hard you try to do so. Maybe it’s time to accept that you and your boyfriend are simply unable to work things out and to walk away.
3. You are the only one trying
Every relationship is a two-way street and this is especially the case with romantic ones. That means that both you and your partner need to put in the maximum amount of effort for things to be as they should be.
But lately, you feel like you are the only one struggling for survival. You feel like he has given up on the two of you without a fight and as if he doesn’t give a damn whether you’ll stay by his side or you’ll break up.
Lately, you have the feeling like you are alone in the relationship and like you are the only one carrying all the weight and this is a sure-fire sign that you are holding onto something that you need to let go of.
4. You are frustrated and negative
Everything your partner does frustrates and annoys you. And vice versa. It is clear that the two of you hold grudges regarding some things from the past which you haven’t dealt with properly in time.
And naturally, this entire situation has a negative impact on the way you feel. You’ve become bitter and pessimistic and you see no way out.
If this is how your relationship makes you feel, it is more than obvious that it’s time for you to pack your bags. Remember that your mental health should be your number one priority and you’ll ruin it completely if you stay in this unhealthy relationship.
5. You don’t see a future with him
Finally, the question you need to ask yourself is if you see yourself growing old next to this man. Do you see a future with him?
Don’t think about the years which will be wasted if you leave him. Don’t think about your memories together. Don’t think about the fact that you might have strong feelings for him.
Do you see this man as your life partner, until death do you part? Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life in this relationship, the way it is now?
If the answer is no, it is a sign screaming that it’s time to let go, as much as it might hurt you. Because everything else is torture and a waste of time.