Whether you are in a long-term relationship or you are just starting a new one, you are always in search of of interesting conversation topics and things to talk about with your girlfriend. Healthy communication is the basis of every healthy relationship and that is why you need to put the the effort into tackling some deeper and more personal topics which will help you and your loved one get to know each other more.
And that is why we are here to give you 12 interesting things to talk about with your girlfriend to bring you two closer.
Common interests
When you meet a new girl, it is likely for the two of you to have some things in common, which initially attracted you to each other. And these are exactly the things you should use as an icebreaker to start off some conversations with your girlfriend.
Your common interests can especially help you on the first date because they help you two to get to know each other and because these topics are not too private so so you won’t be invading this girl’s privacy.
These are the things you should put your focus on because this girl will like you more if she she sees that you two are similar. You’ll feel more familiar to her and she’ll love to have someone she can talk to about the things which interest her.
These similarities will help you form a special bond with this girl and it will make the two of you feel connected and this is exactly what you are trying to do, right?
So, you and your girl have the same favorite movies and TV shows? You are both self-proclaimed nerds? You listen to similar music or go out to the same places?
Great, because these are all the things you can talk to her about and you both can share your personal experiences regarding these interests.
Hobbies
Another way of getting to know your girlfriend better is to do your best to find out more about her hobbies. What are the things she likes to do in her free time? What is her favorite leisure activity?
Is there a TV show she likes to watch? Does she play video games or read books? Does she enjoy playing or watching specific sports? Does she like to spend her free time watching her favorite show or a a movie or does she prefer outdoor activities?
If you are just at the beginning of your relationship, these are all the things you will need to put an effort into finding out over time. Just make sure your girlfriend doesn’t feel like she is being interrogated or as if she is in an interview—ask her about these things spontaneously and make them a part of the conversation.
If you are looking for inspiration to take her out on a memorable date, you can use some of her hobbies as ideas. If she likes climbing mountains, you can surprise her by taking her on a hike or if she loves singing, you can take her out on a karaoke night.
Daily routine
When you finish with a busy and exhausting day, there is nothing you wish for more than someone you care about to ask you all about it. You just want someone to hear out all of your small problems and to have time for you.
And your girlfriend is no different. So the best thing you can do for her when she comes home from work is to ask her about her day.
What were the things that frustrated her and what were the small things which put a smile on her face? Don’t push her too hard to tell you about this—just show her that you are there for her and that you are more than willing to hear her out anytime.
If you are in the beginnings of the relationship, you can ask your girl about her daily routine. What time does she normally get up? When does she come home from work? Does she have a habit of going out on work nights?
This will help you see her schedule and it will be easier for you to plan date nights and to become a part of this girl’s everyday life.
Couples activities
Whether you are in a long-term relationship or you are just starting a new relationship, the truth is that you are always in search of new, fun and unusual couple activities and that you are trying to organize out of the ordinary date nights.
And this is something you can and should talk about with your girlfriend. If you’ve just started going out, you should ask her about her favorite couples activities.
Does she prefer to stay in or go out? Does she enjoy long, romantic walks or does she like to go out clubbing? Does she prefer a homemade meal or a fancy dinner date? Does she prefer for her and her romantic partner to spend more time one-on-one or would she like for the two of you to hang out with friends and other couples?
This doesn’t mean that you have to blindly follow your girlfriend’s lead nor that the two of you should be doing only the things she wants but talking about these things can help you see her wishes and try to please her.
The two of you can plan your next trip together or talk about a movie you would like to watch. What is the movie genre she prefers to watch? How would she like to spend her next vacation? Does she prefer the mountains or the seaside?
These can all be the questions you ask her now and, when the timing is right, you can surprise her with the activity she mentioned she would love to do. This will show your girl that you’ve been paying attention to the little things and it will mean a lot to her.
The things the two of you like and dislike about each other
Remember the first thing that went through your mind the moment you saw your girlfriend, even before she became your girlfriend? Remember the first thing about her that you found attractive? The first thing that drew you to her? Remember what made you put the effort into trying to get to know her better? What was the thing that made you fall in love with her and when did you realize that you loved her?
These are all the things to talk about your girlfriend and the topics you should ask her about. I am sure you both remember the first impression you had when you met each other and she will be more than delighted to share her memories of those events with you.
But besides this, it is also important to talk about the things you two like and dislike about each other right now. What are her favorite qualities of yours? What does she consider to be your flaws? What would you like to change about her, if you had the chance?
Don’t forget to be completely honest, even though these can be tricky topics. There is no place for any hard feelings while the two of you tackle these issues because this is for your own good—it will help you make your relationship way better and both of you will get a chance for some self-improvement.
Let’s get one thing straight—neither of you should change the essence of your personality for the other person. But there is nothing wrong with hearing a piece of advice regarding our behavior from our loved one.
Your families and friends
Your family and friends are important parts of your life. These are the people who helped you become the person you are today and the people whom you share incredible memories with.
And that is why this can be one of the topics to talk about with your girlfriend. Who is her best friend now? Who was her childhood best friend? How important really is friendship to her?
You should talk to her about her male friends as well. Does she have a male best friend? How close are the two of them?
What about her family? What does family represent to her? Is she closer to her mum or her dad? Does she have any siblings or is she an only child?
If you ask all or some of these questions, your girl will see that you are honestly interested in her life and that you are really trying to find out more about her. She will be lucky to get a chance to talk about her loved ones with you.
Besides, this can give you an insight into these people. Do they impact her much? Do their opinions matter to her? What are they like?
Knowing all of this will help you become closer to your girlfriend’s family and friends, for when the time comes for you to meet each other. And there is nothing that could make your girlfriend happier than seeing all the people she loves and deeply cares about mutually getting along.
